God parents

Since I got pregnant I've been struggling with choosing a god mother for my unborn daughter.

I needed to figure out what it meant to me. My conclusion ended up being that a god mother is first of all not a relative. I know that, at least in Sweden, many people choose siblings for god parents. I did not want to do that. I expect relatives, and especially my sisters, to love my daughter and be there for her anyway. They are her aunties by blood. They don't need another "title".

Second, a god mother is, to me, not someone that will introduce my child into Christian faith and all of that, as it traditionally means.

Third, a god mother will not be the guardian to my child incase something would happen to my husband and I. But she will care and make sure of my child's best interest, if that happens. But most important she will know me so well, that she can pass on stories about me to my daughter, tell my daughter what my views on life was, and hopefully have some of those views herself.

Forth, a god mother need to get a long pretty well with my husband. After all, it is the father of the child.

Now, I'm not planning and not hoping that I will pass away prematurely. So as the situation is right now, what I'm hoping that having a god mother will mean to my child, is giving her the nice feeling that there are other grown ups than her relatives that care about her. I believe children should be surrounded by lots of role models and grown ups that care.

And if my daughter really like her god mother, maybe she can turn to her if there is something that she feels she can't talk to me about. And as the god mother is supposed to be someone that knows me well and that I consider being a good role model, there would probably not be any advice from that direction that would interfere with my views.

So, after coming to this conclusion, I just needed to figure out who this person was. I had one person in mind, but was sure she would not want to. Just didn't think it was her sort of thing.

Today I decided to ask her anyway, as I figured she would not have a problem turning me down. Surprisingly she was happy and honored and said yes straight away. Now Noam has the greatest god mother of all.

There will be a problem if we will have more children though, Because the person "next on the list", who's views go hand in hand with my views a lot, I'm pretty sure is not interested in even pronouncing the word god parent. But, I guess, that problem is yet far away.

Finally something funny. Noam's god mother is catholic and married to a jew. Noam's god father is muslim. And her parents believe in all sorts of things, but no organized religion. Could it get any better?